I think my comment on your Love is Love post might not have made it through the transition to the new site.
“Why not just declare your feelings?”
If sexual harassment laws were as onerous as your post presumes your arguments would be correct. However, legally and empirically your premise is false.
Asking a coworker out once and being rejected, is NOT harassment. For it to be harassment, you have to harass: repeated advances despite rejection or no reciprocation.
Empirically speaking, I don’t know anyone who has not asked a female coworker out because they were afraid of termination or a lawsuit. However, I do know of people who I almost wish were afraid of being fired/sued so that they would stop pursuing a female that was a clear non-starter. (Can we talk about how much of a deadweight losses are created by people who pay for someone else’s dinners, for flowers, drinks, etc. when there’s clearly nothing there?)
That said, if sexual harassment laws were as onerous as your premise makes them appear you would indeed get the deadweight losses your analysis finds.
However, do you actually know someone who’s not asked a coworker out for fear of being fired/sued? If not, you risk fueling the irrational logic of many men wrt romance. I.e., “If I ask that girl at the office out I’ll lose my job/get sued so I won’t . Instead, I’ll tell myself that these ‘low IQ women’ just don’t get how great I am and that’s why I can get laid.”
The more rational response would be to a therapist, work out their insecurities and i don’t know try to read a few books on dating women.
I think my comment on your Love is Love post might not have made it through the transition to the new site.
“Why not just declare your feelings?”
If sexual harassment laws were as onerous as your post presumes your arguments would be correct. However, legally and empirically your premise is false.
Asking a coworker out once and being rejected, is NOT harassment. For it to be harassment, you have to harass: repeated advances despite rejection or no reciprocation.
Empirically speaking, I don’t know anyone who has not asked a female coworker out because they were afraid of termination or a lawsuit. However, I do know of people who I almost wish were afraid of being fired/sued so that they would stop pursuing a female that was a clear non-starter. (Can we talk about how much of a deadweight losses are created by people who pay for someone else’s dinners, for flowers, drinks, etc. when there’s clearly nothing there?)
That said, if sexual harassment laws were as onerous as your premise makes them appear you would indeed get the deadweight losses your analysis finds.
However, do you actually know someone who’s not asked a coworker out for fear of being fired/sued? If not, you risk fueling the irrational logic of many men wrt romance. I.e., “If I ask that girl at the office out I’ll lose my job/get sued so I won’t . Instead, I’ll tell myself that these ‘low IQ women’ just don’t get how great I am and that’s why I can get laid.”
The more rational response would be to a therapist, work out their insecurities and i don’t know try to read a few books on dating women.