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Tyler seems to be trying to build a sort of ecumenical definition of feminism, where feminism is defined more by chosen point of emphasis rather than overall worldview, and therefore actually consistent with advocacy on male issues, just as one can be anti-cancer and anti-malaria at the same time, but choose to focus on one. Some feminists even take this tack in the abstract, saying things like 'men should do their own advocacy rather than expecting feminists to solve all of men's issues in addition to our own' when asked to explain the asymmetry of their interests.

In practice though, 'male issues advocates' and feminists inexorably clash. They clash of course because where male and female interests conflict (e.g., debates over parental custody, treatment of people accused of domestic violence), feminists often take the side of female interests over procedural equality, but also because choice of emphasis is viewed as a zero-sum game. Most feminists believe women's issues are much more severe than men's and therefore view the 'men's issues' side of things as similar to advocating for the oppressor; even when morally correct in theory, it is seen to reflect a ridiculous disproportionality; e.g., setting up a fund to defend rich southern plantation owners falsely accused of crimes in the South in the 1850s. Sure, there are probably some such cases genuinely warranting redress, but it reflects absurd priorities.

Some self-identified feminists do of course take a fairly ecumenical view of gender issues, but they tend to struggle to find acceptance among mainstream feminists.

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forumposter123@protonmail.com's avatar

You guys are placing an awful lot of eggs I the social justice/equality/fairness basket here.

Quite frankly, you're arguing about feminism like....men (nerdy men at that).

I prefer the Steve Sailer definition of feminism, which he phrases a few different ways about amounts to "I, woman with more masculine than average disposition, should rise in relative status to other women who have more feminine dispositions."

(or hilariously in the trans age, that literal men should rise in status as women above normal women)

This especially explains why a lot of feminism is about arguing with other women.

All the rest of it is just words. You start with the vibes and regurgitate the talking points you think will actualize the vibes.

Take "slut walks", the feminist cause of the day when I was a young man. The idea that such nonsense could slot into some logical discussion of gender fairness is laughable. Sure, they regurgitate a bunch of easily refuted stats about rape or something. But really, it sure looks like a bunch of not so attractive women who want to not feel so bad about what they have to do to get male attention.

When I worry about what my daughters will take away from feminism its an awful lot of bad habits and attitudes unrelated to fairness. I wouldn't want my daughter being in a slutwalk even if the gender pay gap wasn't made up.

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