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Shawnelle Martineaux's avatar

I want to like this post, but I think it misses crucial points. One such point is that many women who become single mothers find themselves in that situation because of reproductive coercion tactics on the parts of the men they are with. For example, those men sabotage birth control and pretend that the woman was just unlucky to have her contraceptive fail, only revealing what they have done when the woman is well into the pregnancy. Some use actual abuse as well. This happens A LOT among blacks, where the women are more educated than the men, and tend to be more willing to date down socioeconomic hierarchies. They end up with these men because of culture and ither social pressures. Women who are with men who are lower socioeconomic status than them have the higher rates of domestic violence for the same reasons - the men want to humble them but mate guard. Food for thought.

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John A. Johnson's avatar

Using a reliable form of birth control seems easy to someone like Bryan, who is rational, thoughtful, self-disciplined, and good at emotional regulation. Not all of us are like Bryan.

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