I was tracking with you until you said that the Israeli Palestinian conflict was possibly just a misunderstanding unless you mean that Islam is a big misunderstanding.
But I’d also add that repeat offense counts too. Multiple “misunderstandings “ with the same person takes on a different meaning than isolated incidents.
Perhaps when you thought about the event that led to the break off of contact you were able to objectively reflect about who the offending person really is via an assessment of that person's behavior prior to the inflammatory incident? Hardly need a third party to intercede if one takes a deep breath and takes an objective view of the other person as to who that person really is.
Listening and holding one's tongue until getting to what people mean rather than just what they say is key to avoiding this particular pitfall. Does your small child really mean "I HATE you!" when you enforce nap or eating or putting toys away rules?
Questions: 1. Is that person really your friend in the first place.
2. Were you merely a friend of convince?
3. Were they just looking for an excuse to unfriend you, non friend you, defriend you? i.e Thank God I don't have to pretend to be that jerks friend anymore.
And no the others aren't misunderstandings. Being famous makes people feel entitled. If you don't treat them that way they resent it. See The Man Who Came To Dinner. If you treat someone famous like one of "the boys" it doesn't go well. There is a reason that the words "entitled" and "jerk" are paired a lot. Also. you seem to have a very very broad definition of misunderstandings.
I would consider it a form of malevolence when someone routinely assumes malevolence on the part of another person without really trying to understand. And sadly, there is a lot of malevolence in the world in the form of people who are constantly trying to stir up contention, rather than reduce or avoid it.
Personally, I strive to be a peacemaker, and to avoid contentious people.
I was tracking with you until you said that the Israeli Palestinian conflict was possibly just a misunderstanding unless you mean that Islam is a big misunderstanding.
I would sum it up by saying “intent matters”.
But I’d also add that repeat offense counts too. Multiple “misunderstandings “ with the same person takes on a different meaning than isolated incidents.
Perhaps when you thought about the event that led to the break off of contact you were able to objectively reflect about who the offending person really is via an assessment of that person's behavior prior to the inflammatory incident? Hardly need a third party to intercede if one takes a deep breath and takes an objective view of the other person as to who that person really is.
"you malevolently decided to hurt to the other"
Is this English?
Listening and holding one's tongue until getting to what people mean rather than just what they say is key to avoiding this particular pitfall. Does your small child really mean "I HATE you!" when you enforce nap or eating or putting toys away rules?
Questions: 1. Is that person really your friend in the first place.
2. Were you merely a friend of convince?
3. Were they just looking for an excuse to unfriend you, non friend you, defriend you? i.e Thank God I don't have to pretend to be that jerks friend anymore.
And no the others aren't misunderstandings. Being famous makes people feel entitled. If you don't treat them that way they resent it. See The Man Who Came To Dinner. If you treat someone famous like one of "the boys" it doesn't go well. There is a reason that the words "entitled" and "jerk" are paired a lot. Also. you seem to have a very very broad definition of misunderstandings.
I would consider it a form of malevolence when someone routinely assumes malevolence on the part of another person without really trying to understand. And sadly, there is a lot of malevolence in the world in the form of people who are constantly trying to stir up contention, rather than reduce or avoid it.
Personally, I strive to be a peacemaker, and to avoid contentious people.