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Sam Schillace's avatar

I don't have a deep understanding of the culture, but I trained in a dojo run by a Japanese sensei here for many years, as well as having traveled there maybe a dozen times. I think a better framing than conformity is harmony - the culture places a high value on not inconveniencing others, as just a pure social value. This (as explained to me by a Japanese citizen) is why eating on the street and other public places is taboo - you might make a mess, make someone uncomfortable from the smell, etc.

I think conformity is a very western framing of this - "there has to be a stick to think about other people". But if you stipulate that the Japanese culture values something like harmony/politeness as a first-order value, then the idea of "I will wear a mask so I don't inconvenience others" makes more sense. I also remember people there telling me pre-pandemic that sometimes you'd wear a mask if you felt like you might be getting a cold, so as to not give it to other people. That's not social pressure, it's social values.

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Sarah Constantin's avatar

This post seems extremely confused about what social pressure is.

Social pressure is not "you will literally, physically, be forced to do something you do not want to do."

Social pressure is: "you were taught, by society, that certain things are good and approved of, and other things are bad and disapproved of; you partially internalized these messages; you expect the people you know to have these expectations of you and to think less of you if you don't comply; you experience this as a feeling of unwelcome obligation to conform to society's standards."

In a sense, I suppose, it is a "choice", but it doesn't feel like "one's own" choice, it feels like a duty or burden.

If you try to put down that duty or burden, you don't literally die, but you experience social disapproval, which hurts in itself, and which indirectly can cause material harms sometimes.

The severity of the material harms from social disapproval are hard to measure and may vary a lot based on individual situation; that's an essential component of how social pressure *works*, that nobody is quite sure how bad it will be if they defy it.

This is basically the same complaint I have with your Szaszianism.

"I feel compelled to do this" and "I want to do this" are the same to you, but they feel entirely different on the inside. One hurts, one doesn't.

I don't see why you are so unwilling to accept the existence of subjectively different experiences of agency.

Or do you admit that they feel different, but...not care about that difference? For what purpose? What exactly is the claim being made here?

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